Death of a spouse

Date: 9/23/2016

Kate was visiting us (I think in the US) and while she was away, Sean got suddenly sick and died. I had to tell her. she was having dinner with us and someone (her gran?) had made this amazing cake that was carved layers of wood in between cake layers, somehow floating/hanging. She seemed to have 2 or 3 little boys. I kept crying, she never cried and I kept trying to encourage her to that it was OK. At the start I'm fairly sure I was with T and we were deciding to go back to Ireland for the funeral. When we went back though my boyfriend seemed to be Conor. I was really upset and he was just sitting around with 'the lads' drinking. I was trying to help Kate figure out what she would do about work and encouraging her to keep doing something artistic even though it felt like she wouldn't have time or it wasn't important. There was some part in a cabin with stacked wood for burning outside, I think Richard was staying in the cabin, we were trying to get him to restack the wood. I believe the group picked up Sean's coffin at the airport in an SUV somehow. Kate gave me back some pearl earrings we had given her years before, they had been pink but one had lost it's colour now. We were in a jewellery store and I was looking at all these necklaces trying to figure out which one would bring her the most comfort and I didn't think any would. There was a part where she was really into circuses (old fashioned) and I tried to get the circus to come to town writing to them or something? I feel like Grampy made an appearance helping with the letter maybe? I wanted ti get a 'circusy' outfit for her, or maybe for the funeral? I kept crying and looking over at the table and Conor was just kind of waiting for me to stop crying so he didn't have to deal with it.