Uncle has theory about why my family is dysfunctional

Date: 4/8/2018

I was arguing with my dad and there was like this yes no answer pad like I had to choose one to agree or disagree and I was going to say no but then I decided to pick yes just to shut him up. I didn't want to argue anymore. Then he walked away and my uncle was there, my dad's brother. He had been there during the argument but I wasn't paying him any mind until now. He was sitting on a couch across from me eating a plate of food. I went and sat next to him and he said "I think I know why your family has problems. It's because you're all victims." I understood what he was saying and elaborated. "And were all self-absorbed so we can't empathize with each other" (that's not exactly what I said, I'm just paraphrasing the idea of what I said.) I also remember a dream that followed this one and it was my five year old sister's birthday and she was getting cards. I gave her one that said "turning five is a special occasion" as the opener and then it was like a card where you had to open up a flap after you opened it to read it and it said Happy Birthday in pink sparkly italics. We were at her house in the kitchen and her grandfather came in through the back door in the kitchen and he was holding two roses. One was for her and one was for me for some reason. He also had a card but my sister threw out the card and the gift too for some reason. My dad got mad at her and fished them out of the garbage. "Why did you throw those out?" he said, picking her up to look her straight in the eye. "Apologize." But she didn't say anything. Her mom picked up the card to read it but dropped it under the table or a chair at a table that didn't look like they're kitchen table and I had caught a glimpse of it. It looked familiar and when I picked it up I realized it was the same card I got her.